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Excerpted from Love is the Answer by G. Jampolsky and D. Cirincione. Copyright 1990 by Gerald Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione. Excerpted by permission of Random House, Inc. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.  HTML and web pages copyright by SpiritSite.com.
 


"Each of us was born with the power and capacity to accept love, to love unconditionally, and to bring love into all of our relationships. It is our investment in the ego that blocks our awareness of love's presence."

Jerry Jampolsky and Diane Cirincione, 
Love Is the Answer
, Part 1

Most of us experience tension in relationships that we know could be better. There is an inner part of our being that really does want to achieve peace with the people and problems getting us down. Fortunately, creating positive relationships begins with ourselves. What we believe, what we see, and what we experience depends directly on the thoughts we have in our minds.

We believe that all relationships can be healed, allowing us to feel the peace of mind we all seek. This can be achieved through a "psychological-spiritual" approach based on the principles of Attitudinal Healing. Attitudinal Healing is the process of letting go of the fearful, guilty, angry, negative thoughts that so many of us carry in our minds. It is based on the premise that it is not other people or circumstances that cause us to be upset, but rather our own thoughts and attitudes about those people and circumstances that cause us distress.

In Attitudinal Healing, health is defined as "inner peace" and healing as "letting go of fear." It is a way of correcting our own misperceptions. Perhaps the most valuable gift given to us by the universe is the freedom to choose and to decide upon our thoughts.

By using the principles of Attitudinal Healing presented in this book, we can learn to use free will to choose our thoughts. By exercising our ability to choose, we can let go of all illusions that create separation, such as the illusion that we can achieve happiness by getting other people to change in order to fit our own molds, so that we might feel "in control and safe." We can let go of fearful, negative, and guilty thoughts that limit our relationships and cause us to feel separate.

In this book, we will talk about two ways of looking at the world. One is through the eyes of the ego, and the other is through the eyes of love. We can always choose whether we are going to listen to the voice of the ego or to the voice of love. We create positive relationships only when we listen to the voice of love.

Each of us was born with the power and capacity to accept love, to love unconditionally, and to bring love into all of our relationships. It is our investment in the ego that blocks our awareness of love's presence. In this book we will describe how it is possible to let go of our attachment to the voice of the ego and start listening to the voice of love.

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