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"We may have some resistance to this. Part of our mind wants to say, 'Iím not choosing to see things this way; they just are this way.'"

  Dan Joseph, Inspired by Miracles, Part 3

Step 1. The first step in this process is to choose a person in your life who troubles you. It could be someone who seems quite irritating, or someone who seems just mildly annoying.

 

(ex. Debby, my co-worker.)

Step 2. Next, describe why this person troubles you, using as much detail as possible. Youíre encouraged not to "censor" your current perspective. This step calls for a great deal of honesty.

 

 

(ex. Debby constantly gossips, she always asks me to do things for her, and she acts very petty. I just donít like being around her. No one really likes being around her.)

Step 3. Even though these things may seem to be "facts" (and on the worldly level, some of them may be), letís reframe them in terms of our thoughts. Letís restate step two in the form of, "Iím choosing to see _____ (person) as _____ (quality)."

We may have some resistance to this. Part of our mind wants to say, "Iím not choosing to see things this way; they just are this way." Although things may indeed be this way on a behavioral level, the Course wants us to take responsibility for our thoughts about them.

Again, our job in this step is to rewrite each sentence from step two in the form, "Iím choosing to see _____ as _____." This is a powerful step because it involves taking full responsibility for our thoughts. By doing this, weíre identifying the contents of the cubbyhole.

 

 

 

(ex. Iím choosing to see Debby as someone who constantly gossips, who always asks me to do things for her, and who acts very petty. Iím choosing to see Debby as someone I donít like being around. Iím choosing to see Debby as someone whom no one likes being around.)

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